Become a Mentor
Mentoring Men exists thanks to the dedication and commitment of our volunteer mentors who each bring different skills and knowledge to positively impact the wellbeing of Australian men.
We welcome all enquires for men interested in becoming a mentor.
All our mentors attend our specialised training course, as well as the Lifeline Accidental Counsellor course at no cost to them.
Once validated, mentors and mentees are matched, a mentoring relationship agreement is signed and the mentoring starts.
Mentors receive ongoing support and oversight from a Program Coordinator and a mental health professional.
For more details on becoming a mentor, please refer to our FAQs below.
Who can apply:
You can apply by filling out the Mentor Application Form and providing a Working with Children Check and a National Crime Check.
To apply, you will need to be:
- 21 years or older
- Available 1 hour per week or fortnight and commit to a period of at least 6 months of mentoring
- Commit to completing our training program
How to apply:
You can apply by filling out the following forms:
Who can become a mentor?
All Mentoring Men mentor applicants must comply with the following requirements:
- Must be male and at least 21 years at time of submitting their mentor application.
- Must submit a current Working with Children check and a National Crime Check that are both less than 3 years old
- Must provide two character references.
- Must be available for around 1 hour per week or fortnight for the mentoring period usually 6 to 12 months)
How are mentors and mentees matched?
To match mentors with mentees the Mentoring Men co-ordinator will consider various aspects including:
- Geographic location
- Mentee goals
- Personality type
Can the mentoring be conducted over the phone?
If it is too difficult for mentors and mentees to meet face to face then the telephone or video conferencing can be used.
What if I don’t know something my mentee asks me?
Mentoring is not about having the answers. The role of mentors is to model behaviour that seeks information from others in their networks, to support mentees to gain the confidence and information to find their own answers. It’s realistic to expect that as a mentor you will need help, information or support along the way from other mentors or the Mentoring Men co-ordinator.
How do mentors and mentees communicate with each other?
It is quite normal for a mentor and mentee to exchange personal mobile numbers and/or email addresses. It needs to be understood that the purpose of exchanging this information is to organise and confirm mentoring catch-ups rather than a medium to continue incidental contact in-between meetings.
Can a mentee and mentor connect over social media?
It is strongly recommended that in the short term only telephone numbers are exchanged and that mentoring sessions are held in public places. In the longer term, if there is mutual agreement then further information like Facebook may be exchanged but caution should be taken.
Can I invite a mentee to meet some of my friends or family?
Generally mentors should not invite mentees to meet friends and/or family given that Mentoring Men does not have the capacity to screen relatives and friends for the purpose of one-off/incidental contact.
Can I invite a Mentee to come home?
In general mentors should not invite mentees to their own home given that Mentoring Men does not have the capacity to screen for the purpose of one-off/incidental contact. We also want to make sure that you remain safe; inviting mentees to your home can lead to unintended consequences.
When the mentoring relationship is well established and with your program coordinator’s permission, it may be possible for you invite your mentee to your home. Please note that if you do so, it is at your own risk.
The reasons for such an invite may be for the purpose of linking your mentee into a small group for developmental purposes or to facilitate the mentees movement into a social network context. In these circumstances, the program coordinator would conduct a risk assessment before granting permission and it is vital that someone else be with you at your home at all times.
Can I attend social events when invited by my mentee?
If you are invited to attend a social event by your mentee you should first check with you Mentoring Men coordinator to get their decision on whether attendance sits comfortably within the mentoring role before responding.
What if my mentee wants to meet me more than once a week – can I do this?
How you schedule your mentoring meetings can be flexible and ultimately needs to be a decision made between you and your mentee. In general Mentoring Men prefers that mentoring occurs no more frequently than weekly and doesn’t usually exceed 2 hours per week.
Do I need to check in with anybody?
We ask that a ‘support person’ always know where you are and when you are expected to return. If you do not return at the specified time the support person needs to make contact with you. If they are unable to make contact they need to phone the Mentoring Men after-hours phone number.
Are mentors allowed to offer transport to mentees?
As a general rule mentors should not offer transportation to mentees, nor should mentors accept offers of transport by mentees.
What are the mandatory reporting requirements?
Although Mentoring Men mentors are not legally considered mandatory reporters (Children and Young Persons (Care and Protection) Act 1998, § 27 (1)), mentors are encouraged to discuss with theirMentoring Men Coordinator any suspicion of a child (or adult) being under risk of significant harm. The Coordinator would then decide whether to report the matter. If the mentor is told something by their mentee about the mentees own child, then the mentor would need to notify the Mentoring Men coordinator who would report the matter.
What if I see something during a mentoring session that concerns me?
All concerns should be passed back to the MM co-ordinator.
Can I mentor more than one mentee at a time?
When does the Mentoring Relationship end?
The mentoring relationship should run for at least the term agreed term unless:
- the mentee decides that they have achieved their goals from the relationship, or
- the mentor, in consultation with the Mentoring Men Coordinator, believes the relationship to no longer be achieving worthwhile goals.
A mentor who feels at risk of harm in any mentor/mentee relationship is encouraged to discuss this with the Mentoring Men Coordinator who may then choose to close the mentor/mentee relationship.