Become a Mentor

Mentee or Mentor - What’s the Difference?

Mentee is a man who seeks to improve their life with support from their mentor.
Mentor is a man who volunteers their time to meet, listen and help a mentee in his life journey.

Mentoring Men exists thanks to the dedication and commitment of our volunteer mentors who each bring different skills and knowledge to positively impact the wellbeing of Australian men.

We welcome all enquires for men interested in becoming a mentor.

All our mentors attend our specialised training course which is currently free of charge. We also have further programs from time to time such as suicide prevention training and self care workshops.

Once validated, mentors and mentees are matched, a mentoring relationship agreement is signed and the mentoring starts.

Mentors receive ongoing support and oversight from a Program Coordinator and a mental health professional.

For more details on becoming a mentor, please refer to our FAQs below.

Who can apply:

To apply, you will need to be:

  • 21 years or older
  • Available 1 hour per week or fortnight and commit to a period of at least 6 months of mentoring
  • Commit to completing our training program

How to apply:

Please complete the following forms:

NB: Any records listed in the above security check results will not stop assessment of your mentor application.

Mentoring Moments

This video series features mentors and mentees talking about their experiences with Mentoring Men and how mentoring and being mentored has benefited their lives (Subtitles available).

Mentor FAQs

How do I sign up?

To enroll in the Mentoring Men program you will need to complete the Mentor Application Form which is available from this website.

Who can become a mentor?

All Mentoring Men mentor applicants must comply with the following requirements:

  • Must be male and at least 21 years at time of submitting their mentor application.
  • Must submit a current Working with Children check and a National Crime Check that are both less than 3 years old.
  • Must provide two character references.
  • Must be available for around 1 hour per week or fortnight for the mentoring period (usually 6 to 12 months).
How are mentors and mentees matched?

To match mentors with mentees the Mentoring Men co-ordinator will consider various aspects including:

  • Availability;
  • Geographic location;
  • Hobbies/interests;
  • Mentee goals;
  • Language/Culture;
  • Personality type; and
  • The type of mentor requested by the mentee.
Can the mentoring be conducted over the phone?

Studies have shown that the best outcome for a mentoring relationship is meeting in person but if it is too difficult for mentors and mentees to meet face to face then the telephone or video conferencing can be used.

What if I don’t know something my mentee asks me?

Mentoring is not about having the answers. The role of mentors is to model behaviour that seeks information from others in their networks, to support mentees to gain the confidence and information to find their own answers. It’s realistic to expect that as a mentor you will need help, information or support along the way from other mentors or your Mentoring Men co-ordinator.

How do mentors and mentees communicate with each other?

It is quite normal for a mentor and mentee to exchange personal mobile numbers and/or email addresses. It needs to be understood that the purpose of exchanging this information is to organise and confirm mentoring catch-ups rather than a medium to continue incidental contact in-between meetings.

Can a mentee and mentor connect over social media?

Generally mentors should not invite mentors to meet friends and/or family without first checking with their Mentoring Men coordinator.

Can I invite a mentee to meet some of my friends or family?

Generally mentors should not invite mentees to meet friends and/or family given that Mentoring Men does not have the capacity to screen relatives and friends for the purpose of one-off/incidental contact.

Can I invite a Mentee to come home?

Generally mentors should not invite mentors to their home without first checking with their Mentoring Men coordinator.

Can I attend social events when invited by my mentee?

If you are invited to attend a social event by your mentee you should first check with you Mentoring Men coordinator to get their decision on whether attendance sits comfortably within the mentoring role before responding.

What if my mentee wants to meet me more than once a week – can I do this?

How you schedule your mentoring meetings can be flexible and ultimately needs to be a decision made between you and your mentee. In general Mentoring Men prefers that mentoring occurs no more frequently than weekly and doesn’t usually exceed 2 hours per week.

Are mentors allowed to offer transport to mentees?

As a general rule mentors should not offer transportation to mentees, nor should mentors accept offers of transport by mentees.

What are the mandatory reporting requirements?

Although Mentoring Men mentors are not legally considered mandatory reporters (Children and Young Persons (Care and Protection) Act 1998, § 27 (1)), mentors are encouraged to discuss with their Mentoring Men Coordinator any suspicion of a child (or adult) being under risk of significant harm. The Coordinator would then decide whether to report the matter. If the mentor is told something by their mentee about the mentee’s own child, then the mentor would need to notify the Mentoring Men coordinator who would report the matter.

What if I see something during a mentoring session that concerns me?

All concerns should be passed back to your Mentoring Men co-ordinator.

Can I mentor more than one mentee at a time?

Yes – this should first be discussed with your Mentoring Men coordinator.

When does the Mentoring Relationship end?

The mentoring relationship should run for at least the term agreed term unless:

  • the mentee decides that they have achieved their goals from the relationship, or
  • the mentor, in consultation with their Mentoring Men Coordinator, believes the relationship to no longer be achieving worthwhile goals.
  • A mentor who feels at risk of harm in any mentor/mentee relationship is encouraged to discuss this with their Mentoring Men Coordinator who may then choose to close the mentor/mentee relationship.
What ongoing mentor support available?

 Once the mentor training has been completed and mentoring has commenced, ongoing mentor support is available through:

  • On call assistance by qualified mentor support.
  • Regular proactive check-ins from qualified mentor support.
  • Support available through a mentor “buddy” system.
  • Regular mentor support group sessions.
What other activities are available as part of the Mentoring Men program?

In addition to the one on one mentoring, Mentoring Men also arrange other activities which are available to all men who are engaged in the program. These include regular Men’s Walk & Talk events and monthly Men’s Forums. Details of these activities are shown under the News & Events page of our website.