Seek a Mentor
Mentee or Mentor - What’s the Difference?
Mentee is a man who seeks to improve their life with support from their mentor.
Mentor is a man who volunteers their time to meet, listen and help a mentee in his life journey.
Why Mentoring Men?
There’s a lot of pressure to be the guy who has everything sorted as you balance family, kids and friends.
While you’re busy making sure everyone else is okay, there’s not a lot of room left for what you want from life. And finding that mate you can trust and chat with about your challenges isn’t easy.
You’re not alone.
That’s where we can help.
Mentoring Men is a free service that carefully matches you with another adult male who is trained to listen, support and help you to define your goals in life. Mentoring Men also provides referrals to other professional service providers depending on your needs.
This video series features mentors and mentees talking about their experiences with Mentoring Men and how mentoring and being mentored has benefited their lives (Subtitles available).
What to expect
Many of us experience periods of anxiety, feeling helpless, mental health issues, low self-esteem and other distressing life challenges. This is where a mentor can make a real difference in your life.
Mentoring Men is a free service that carefully matches you with another adult male who is trained to listen, support and help you define meaning, hope and your goals in life.
How it works
Mentoring Men will carefully match you with a mentor. You will then meet up, jointly sign a relationship agreement and the mentoring will commence. You will usually meet with your mentor for around one hour every week or fortnight for an initial six month period.
How to enquire
There’s also a FAQ below for further information.
How to refer
You can refer a man into the program by completing the appropriate referral form.
For referral agencies, please complete the Mentee Agency Referral Form.
To refer someone you know or you think would benefit from the program, please complete the Mentee Family or Friend Referral Form.
How do I Sign up?
To enroll in the Mentoring Men program you will need to complete the Mentee Enquiry Form which is available from this website.
What attitude should Mentoring Men mentees have when they start the program?
It is important that mentees who engage in the Mentoring Men program commit themselves to the program. This includes a willingness to meet the requirements of the mentoring relationship agreement, having a genuine desire to set and achieve their goals and having an open mind to consider changing their thinking and behaviour.
What sort of men are accepted into the Mentoring Men program?
All men 18 or over regardless of their background or beliefs are welcome to apply for the Mentoring Men program.
Please note that while all our Mentoring Men mentors are trained and dedicated volunteers, in some cases men applying for our program may need professional support and will be referred to other agencies.
What training have mentors completed?
All Mentoring Men mentors have successfully completed a two day Mentor Facilitation Workshop and a Lifeline Accidental Counsellor course.
How do mentors and mentees communicate with each other?
It is normal for a mentor and mentee to exchange personal mobile numbers and/or email addresses. It needs to be understood that the purpose of exchanging this information is to organise and confirm mentoring catch-ups rather than as a medium for continual incidental communication in-between meetings or after the mentor relationship has ceased.
Can a mentee and mentor connect over social media?
It is strongly recommended that initially only mobile numbers and/or email addresses are exchanged and that mentoring sessions are held in public places. In the longer term, if there is mutual agreement then further information like Facebook may be exchanged but caution should be taken.
Can I invite my mentor to meet some of my friends or family or to my home?
Generally mentees should not invite mentors to meet friends and/or family or to their home without first checking with their Mentoring Men coordinator.
Can I attend social events when invited by my mentor?
Attendance at social events would first need to be discussed with your Mentoring Men coordinator to explore whether attendance sits comfortably within the mentoring role.
Are mentees allowed to offer transport to mentors.
Mentees should not offer transportation to mentors, nor should mentors accept offers of transport by mentees.
When does the Mentoring Relationship end?
The mentoring relationship should run for at least the agreed term (6 months) unless:
- the mentee decides that they have achieved their goals from the relationship, or
- the mentor, in consultation with their Mentoring Men Coordinator, believes the relationship is no longer achieving worthwhile goals.
What can I expect from my mentor?
You can expect your mentor to:
- listen and be supportive;
- provide non-judgemental support;
- provide guidance on issues raised;
- help you to clarify your goals;
- pass on his knowledge and experience; and
- at times, make suggestions to challenge you to help you be the best you can be.
It’s important that you understand that mentoring is a two way mutually beneficial relationship. You will be expected to participate fully rather than to merely receive wisdom from the mentor.
What if I experience problems with my mentor?
Effective mentoring relationships require both the mentor and mentee to sometimes move out of their comfort zones. If you experience relationship problems with your mentor that you feel unable to work through or the problems are of a personal or sensitive nature, you may choose to contact your Mentoring Men co-ordinator to discuss options.
Can the mentoring be conducted over the phone?
Studies have shown that the best outcome for a mentoring relationship is meeting in person but if it is too difficult for mentors and mentees to meet face to face then the telephone or video conferencing can be used.
How are mentors and mentees matched?
To match mentors with mentees the Mentoring Men co-ordinator will consider various aspects including:
- Geographic location
- Mentee goals
- Personality type; and
- The type of mentor requested by the mentee.
How long will it be after I sign up that I will have a mentor?
We are aiming to complete the process within 4 weeks, but it depends on whether there is a suitable match for you on our Mentor Register.
Other than the mentoring relationship is there any other support available?
In addition to regular meetings with your mentor, additional support is available on request including referrals to other organisations and access to support information.
Is mentoring beneficial in every situation?
In some situations mentoring may not be able to meet the needs of an individual and in these cases Mentoring Men will recommend other resources including referrals.
What other activities are available as part of the Mentoring Men program?
In addition to the one on one mentoring, Mentoring Men also arrange other activities which are available to all men who are engaged in the program. These include regular Men’s Walk & Talk events and monthly Men’s Forums. Details of these activities are shown under the News & Events page of our website.