Seek a Mentor
What to expect
Everyone one of us experiences periods of anxiety, feeling down, relationship issues and low self-esteem. This is where a mentor can make a real difference in your life.
Mentoring Men is a free service that carefully matches you with another adult male who is trained to listen, support and help you to define your goals in life.
How it works
Mentoring Men will carefully match you with a mentor. You will then meet up, jointly sign a relationship agreement and the mentoring will commence. You will usually meet with your mentor for around one hour every week or fortnight for an initial six month period.
How to apply
There’s also a FAQ below for further information.
What attitude should Mentoring Men mentees have when they start the program?
It is important that mentees who engage in the Mentoring Men program commit themselves to the program. This includes a willingness to meet the requirements of the mentoring relationship agreement, having a genuine desire to set and achieve their goals and having an open mind to consider changing their thinking and behaviour.
What sort of men are accepted into the Mentoring Men program?
All men regardless of race, religion, sexual orientation or any other classification are welcome to apply for the Mentoring Men program.
Please note that while all our Mentoring Men mentors are trained and dedicated volunteers, in some cases men applying for our program may need professional support and will be referred to other agencies.
What training have mentors completed?
All Mentoring Men mentors have successfully completed a two day mentoring training course.
How do mentors and mentees communicate with each other?
It is normal for a mentor and mentee to exchange personal mobile numbers and/or email addresses. It needs to be understood that the purpose of exchanging this information is to organise and confirm mentoring catch-ups rather than as a medium to continue incidental contact in-between meetings or after the mentor partnership has ceased.
Can a mentee and mentor connect over social media?
It is strongly recommended that initially only mobile numbers and/or email addresses are exchanged and that mentoring sessions are held in public places. In the longer term, if there is mutual agreement then further information like Facebook may be exchanged but caution should be taken.
Can I invite my mentor to meet some of my friends or family?
Generally mentees should not invite mentors to meet friends and/or family given that Mentoring Men does not have the capacity to screen relatives and friends for the purpose of one-off/incidental contact.
Can I invite a mentor to come home?
Generally mentees should not invite mentors to their home given that Mentoring Men does not have the capacity to screen for the purpose of one-off/incidental contact. We also want to make sure that you remain safe; inviting mentors to your home can lead to unintended consequences.
Can I attend social events when invited by my mentor?
Attendance at social events would first need to be discussed with the Mentoring Men coordinator to explore whether attendance sits comfortably within the mentoring role.
Are mentees allowed to offer transport to mentors.
Mentees should not offer transportation to mentors, nor should mentors accept offers of transport by mentees.
When does the Mentoring Relationship end?
The mentoring relationship should run for at least the agreed term unless:
- the mentee decides that they have achieved their goals from the relationship, or
- the mentor, in consultation with the MM Coordinator, believes the relationship to no longer be achieving worthwhile goals.
What can I expect from my mentor?
You can expect your mentor to:
- listen and be supportive;
- provide non-judgemental support;
- provide guidance on issues raised;
- help you to clarify your goals;
- pass on his knowledge and experience; and
- at times, challenge you to be the best you can be.
It’s important that you understand that mentoring is a two way mutually beneficial relationship. You will be expected to participate fully rather than to merely receive wisdom from the mentor.
What if I experience problems with my mentor?
Effective mentoring relationships require both the mentor and mentee to sometimes move out of their comfort zones. If you experience relationship problems with your mentor that you feel unable to work through or the problems are of a personal or sensitive nature, you may choose to contact the Mentoring Men co-ordinator to discuss options.
How do I sign up?
To enroll in the Mentoring Men program you will need to complete the Mentee Application Form which is available from this website.
Can the mentoring be conducted over the phone?
If it is too difficult for mentors and mentees to meet face to face then the telephone or video conferencing can be used.
How are mentors and mentees matched?
To match mentors with mentees the Mentoring Men co-ordinator will consider various aspects including:
- Geographic location
- Mentee goals
- Personality type
- The type of mentor requested by the mentee
How long will it be after I sign up that I will have a mentor?
We are aiming to complete the process within 4 weeks but it depends on whether there is a suitable match for you on our Mentor Register.